Understanding and mitigating AI risks for children
Artificial Intelligence, as your child encounters it, is pattern-matching software. It has been trained on vast amounts of text and learned to predict what word comes next in a sentence. It does not think, feel, understand, or care.
When ChatGPT says "I understand how you feel," it is producing a statistically likely response — not expressing empathy. When Character.AI creates a "character" that seems to have a personality, it is following rules that generate the appearance of personality.
This distinction matters enormously because children under 12 cannot reliably make this distinction. Their brains are still developing the capacity for abstract reasoning about non-human entities. A chatbot that responds to their questions is, in their cognitive framework, indistinguishable from a person who cares about them.
Research from Cambridge (Kurian, 2024) shows that 26% of vulnerable adolescents prefer AI chatbots to real people — not because they believe the AI genuinely cares, but because the AI cannot judge them, report them, or withdraw emotional support.
The emotional dependency gradient follows a clear pattern:
Discovers the AI, fascinated by its responses
Returns daily, shares personal information
Anxious when unable to access the AI
Prefers AI interaction over human relationships
Warning Signs: Withdrawal from friends/family, distress when the app is unavailable, talking about the AI as though it has feelings, checking the app first thing in the morning and last thing at night, declining interest in human social activities.
Use this checklist to evaluate any AI tool or platform your child wants to use.
Does the AI system have robust age verification?
Is the content appropriate for your child's developmental stage?
Does it comply with the Children's Code (AADC)?
Does the AI use first-person pronouns ("I think", "I feel")?
Does it simulate personality or emotions?
Could your child mistake it for a being that cares about them?
What data does it collect from your child?
Is data stored and for how long?
Can you request data deletion under UK GDPR?
Does it share data with third parties?
Does it include usage time tracking?
Does it encourage breaks or redirects to human interaction?
Does it actively resist attachment formation?
Does it scaffold learning or just provide answers?
Does it celebrate process over product?
Could it replace thinking your child should do independently?
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